Ben Middleton

Counsellor/Therapist

How I can help


I offer both specific support around things that may be challenging you, and  also provide a non judgemental space where you can just talk things through if that is what you need right now. 


Specific areas I can offer support with include:  anxiety and panic attacks; relationship problems; substance misuse and addiction; managing trauma; depression; abuse; family issues; low self esteem; confidence; dealing with anger; identity.  I also have extensive experience of working with adults on the autistic spectrum and their family members. If I haven't mentioned the area or topic you are concerend about, drop me a line.

How I work


I work in a collaborative way that aims to support you to really understand what is going on for you and what you need to do to deal with it. You are the expert on you, I can help you find a way through the issues you are facing that works for you as an individual, a unique human being.

 

My approach is heavily influenced by existential thinking. So while we may well talk about the past I am likely to encourage you to think about how that is affecting you now and what it might mean for the future. What is your current experience of the world (mentally, emotionally and physically)? How do you relate to others? How do you understand what is happening to you? Where do you have, or where can you create, choice in your life? It also means that I am very much part of the therapy process, not some sort of blank screen that you come and talk at.

 

I want to help you find the natural flow of your world and to work with that rather than against it - for each of us that balance will be different. Mind and body cannot be separated and worked on without reference to the other. Our body holds memories of our past experiences and is often trying to tell us when we are emotionally suffering. This means when we work together, we are very likely to look at how you are physically reacting to your world, literally what you are feeling, and not just what you are thinking.

 

Sometimes it can be hard to find the words to describe what is going on. I will try to work with you in ways that allow for this. We might use drawing, working with objects or other ways to get to the feelings underlying what is happening for you. But rest assured, we will always work in a way that you are comfortable with.


Accessibility for all


I am dedicated to promoting an environment of respect for the race, colour, ethnicity, religion, sex, national origin, age, familial background physical/mental ability, sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression of all my clients. I want to create an atmosphere of openness, trust, and safety where all attitudes, beliefs, values, and behaviors can be freely explored and discussed and the inherent worth of all my clients can be recognised. 


To contribute towards this in my private practice I aim to be as flexible as possible to minimise barriers people may face in accessing counselling, and I try to recognise how my own background, beliefs and characteristics may influence the way I understand and respond to the experience of my clients.


I have extensive experience of working with neurodiversity and and aim to create a neurodiverse friendly way of counselling.  I am also listed on the National Autisitic Society's services directory. 


I practice in two locations - one of which has fully accessible rooms and disabled parking. If you have mobility problems I am willing to consider home visits, however, this is only in exceptional circumstances as I can offer sessions from a fully accessible site with wheelchair access.



"... the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance.....” 

(Murray 1951)